Does it look something like this:
* looks equally good in a jacket and tie or jeans and t-shirt
* always there for me
* can grow a good beard
What do you like to do together? Long walks on the beach, holding hands...gazing intently into each other's eyes...
Are you longing for a knight in shining armor to sweep you off your feet and take you to his castle far away (but not too far away).
What do you want with a boyfriend? Spend endless hours on the phone or Skype talking about every detail of your day? Dream about your future? Go out to movies? Celebrate your anniversary every month? Cuddle on the couch watching movies?
Men, is this where you are, too?
Gazing for hours with your chin on her laptop, puppy dog eyes, getting scratched behind the ears?
Have you willingly stuck your neck out for that collar and leash? Are you at her beck and call...only to get zapped in the collar if your attention should wander, or your family needs you, or you have to work an extra shift, or...
Men, if you really, truly care about her (even if you do not know who she is yet), then you will work your
Women, if you really want that fairy tale life, then get rid of the
He is out there, but he won't wear a collar.
You don't have to worry about where he will go, though,because he is doing it all for you, and when he has it all together, he is going to sweep you off your feet and build that life with you. That life that he gave all he had for. That life that he dreamed of sharing with you.
Oh, yes, he is dreaming. Every minute that he is not studying for that exam, every time he drives to and from that crappy job that will get him through until he has the career he worked hard for, every lunch hour when he sees that
yes, he is dreaming...
dreaming of you
dreaming of the children he would love to have with you
dreaming of the swing set and jungle gym in the back yard that he longs to build, because he had one (or didn't have one) of his own
Yes, he is dreaming, all right. He isn't likely to talk about those dreams too much, though. He is waiting to make them happen. He is waiting for you. He is waiting to surprise and delight you with their reality.
He is wary of the bumps in the road and the bends around which he cannot see.
He wants to be trusted.
He wants to be believed in.
He wants to be loved
He is strong, a little wild, and fiercely loyal.
provide for your needs (and even your wants)
He will not
abandon his family for you (remember, he is fiercely loyal)
be controlled (but you won't need to)
be able to read your mind
give you the very best money can buy -- not yet (you do want something to look forward to, don't you?)
So, women, don't settle for the
puppy dog boy
Hold out for the bull dog man
Here is how you will know the difference:
He doesn't have a cool car (it will probably have a bit of rust, and maybe the door knob doesn't always work...)
He doesn't wear designer clothes (unless they are handed down)
He doesn't hang out at the
volunteering at church
watching the nieces and nephews
shoveling mom and dad's driveway, mowing the lawn, fixing the steps
working two jobs
You will find him.
He is out there.
Waiting for you.
Looking at the top of the tree, not on the ground.
If you are there, he will find you.